ALT vs Fling
ALT (7.6/10) comes out ahead of Fling (6.2/10) overall, mainly on the biggest, busiest crowd. Go ALT if you want the biggest, busiest crowd; pick Fling if discretion and safety matters more to you.
Our pick 
ALT
7.6/ 10
Safety
7.0
Value
7.8
Crowd
8.8
Ease
7.2
Still the top pick for BDSM, fetish and kink dating, 7.6/10. It’s not pretty, and the FriendFinder breach legacy means discretion is on you, but no other site in the niche brings this many people who already know exactly what they’re into. Join free, work those fetish filters, and go Gold once you’ve found a local scene worth playing in.
- +The kink leader, 2M+ members and 50+ fetish categories, the biggest dedicated BDSM/fetish crowd online since 1996
- +Brilliant fetish filtering: a full kink checklist you mark curious / interested / experienced / hard limit, so matches are genuinely on your wavelength
- +Free to join and browse, use the filters to scope out your local scene before you spend a cent
Fling
6.2/ 10
Safety
5.8
Value
6.4
Crowd
6.6
Ease
6.0
A mid-tier pick, not a top one, 6.2/10 (safety 5.8, value 6.4, members 6.6, ease 6.0). Fling is real, explicit, and can work for a US user who's willing to filter out the fakes, but the documented bot-message and upsell behaviour drags it below the cleaner options. Join free, message recently-active local profiles, and only go Gold once you've confirmed there are real people on the other end.
- +Free to join and browse, so you can scope out the local crowd before paying, and women use most of it free
- +Genuinely explicit and direct, no pretending it's anything but casual, which saves everyone time
- +Solid US pool after nearly 20 years online, busiest in bigger American cities
Side-by-side comparison
| ALT | Fling | |
|---|---|---|
| Overall score | 7.6✓ | 6.2 |
| Safety | 7.0✓ | 5.8 |
| Value | 7.8✓ | 6.4 |
| Crowd | 8.8✓ | 6.6 |
| Ease | 7.2✓ | 6.0 |
| Free to join | Yes | Yes |
| Online since | 1996 | 2006 |
| Best for | BDSM, fetish & kink dating | Explicit, no-pretense casual hookups in the US |
Which should you pick?
ALT
Pick ALT if the biggest, busiest crowd is your priority.
Fling
Pick Fling if discretion and safety matters more to you.
ALT vs Fling, common questions
Is ALT better than Fling?
Overall, ALT comes out ahead (7.6 vs 6.2). But "better" depends on what you want, the table above breaks it down dimension by dimension.
Which is safer and more discreet?
ALT, scoring 7.0 on safety versus 5.8.
Which is better value for money?
ALT, 7.8 on value versus 6.4.
Which has the bigger crowd?
ALT, scoring 8.8 on crowd size and activity versus 6.6.
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