AFF vs Pure
AFF (7.9/10) comes out ahead of Pure (7.4/10) overall, mainly on the biggest, busiest crowd. Pure claws back on discretion and safety. Go AFF if you want the biggest, busiest crowd; pick Pure if discretion and safety matters more to you.
Our pick 
AFF
7.9/ 10
Safety
7.2
Value
7.8
Crowd
9.3
Ease
7.6
Still one of our top picks for casual after all these years, 7.9/10. Not the prettiest, and not the place for maximum discretion, but for sheer odds of actually meeting someone tonight, the crowd is hard to beat. Join free, judge the local activity yourself, then go Gold if it’s buzzing.
- +One of the biggest crowds in casual dating, active at every hour, across pretty much every kink and city
- +Free to join and browse, so you can confirm it’s busy near you before paying a cent
- +Loaded once you’re in: live streams, groups, blogs, a genuine community vibe
Pure
7.4/ 10
Safety
8.5
Value
6.6
Crowd
6.4
Ease
8.1
A clear top pick if discretion is your priority and you live somewhere busy, 7.4/10. Nothing in casual dating hides your tracks better than Pure's anonymous, self-destructing design, and the female-friendly tone makes it more pleasant than the category norm. The honest catch is size: the crowd is smaller and city-dependent, so check your area's active before committing to a long plan. If it's quiet where you are, try DOWN or a bigger site instead.
- +Best-in-class discretion: anonymous sign-up, blurred photos and chats that self-destruct after 24 hours
- +No small talk, you post a clear ad and skip straight to who's actually up for it tonight
- +Free for women, with a genuinely more female-friendly, consent-forward vibe than old-school hookup sites
Side-by-side comparison
| AFF | Pure | |
|---|---|---|
| Overall score | 7.9✓ | 7.4 |
| Safety | 7.2 | 8.5✓ |
| Value | 7.8✓ | 6.6 |
| Crowd | 9.3✓ | 6.4 |
| Ease | 7.6 | 8.1✓ |
| Free to join | Yes | Yes |
| Online since | 1996 | 2013 |
| Best for | Casual hookups, kink & swingers | Discreet, anonymous no-strings hookups |
Which should you pick?
AFF
Pick AFF if the biggest, busiest crowd is your priority.
Pure
Pick Pure if discretion and safety matters more to you.
AFF vs Pure, common questions
Is AFF better than Pure?
Overall, AFF comes out ahead (7.9 vs 7.4). But "better" depends on what you want, the table above breaks it down dimension by dimension.
Which is safer and more discreet?
Pure, scoring 8.5 on safety versus 7.2.
Which is better value for money?
AFF, 7.8 on value versus 6.6.
Which has the bigger crowd?
AFF, scoring 9.3 on crowd size and activity versus 6.4.
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